To Reveal or Not to Reveal?
Many audio performers enjoy the medium of voice precisely because it isn’t visual - there’s a lot less pressure to live up to the sky-high standards of visual porn (which is changing, but very slowly), and you can do your thing without sacrificing your privacy or risking your safety.
But at the same time, our fans and listeners often want to put a face to the voice - they get to know us through our vocal performances and start to get curious about who we are, at least in terms of general looks. In most cases it’s just gentle curiosity from real fans, especially if we’re the kind of performers who enjoy posting teasy photos and videos of our bodies, or parts of our faces, etc, and so the question comes up fairly often - should I do a face reveal?
You can put out polls and surveys from your fans if you want to get an idea of whether they want this or not - the trouble with this is that half of them who do want to see you will tell you not to, out of concern for you and your comfort levels. Ultimately the decision is yours, but here are some points to consider.
1. Do you have a job or other situation that could be jeopardized by exposure of your erotic persona? People being doxxed or outed is extremely rare, but if your livelihood or marriage might be on the line, think carefully before you do a full face reveal.
2. Do you have other platforms where you have posted pictures of your face as part of your real life? For instance, if you have a personal Facebook page where you share photos with your family and friends, be extra cautious about posting your face photos as part of your erotic persona. With tools like Google image search, someone could take your face reveal photo and do a search on it for all the other places on the internet where pictures of you appear. From there, obviously, they could connect you to your real life.
3. Are you okay with this image of you being out there *forever*? It is virtually impossible to un-ring this bell, once you put an image of yourself out there, it’s out there. Your face will forever be connected with your erotic persona, so think about this carefully if you think you might want to leave this part of your life behind at some point and run for office or something.
4. Do you have kids who might be embarrassed by their friends finding your picture online? Sometimes we ourselves are okay with showing the world who we are, but we forget how savage and tech savvy kids are these days, and how brutal they can be. Not to mention, of course, that they might tell their parents, who might make trouble for you. One recent example - a woman with an Only Fans account found out her kids were expelled from their Catholic school - (www.yahoo.com/entertainment/mom-makes-150k-month-onlyfans-181309223.html) because someone found out about her job. Her Only Fans is pretty tame, too.
5. Are you prepared for the sad reality that some of your ‘fans’ will take this opportunity to insult you? It goes with the territory, unfortunately - there’s a certain kind of person who enjoys sex, of course, but resents the people who turn them on, especially if you’re someone who makes money doing it. The vast majority of your fans will be complimentary and loving, but if you’re sensitive about your looks or your age, be prepared for the possibility that some people will take this chance to troll you. Haters gonna hate, right?
6. Do you want to? It sounds like a silly question, but you’d be surprised how many people just get swept up in what your fans want them to do, without stopping to consider whether this what they really want. Take all the time you need to figure out if you really want to reveal your face or body, and if so, think about whatever limits you have. You don’t owe anyone anything, no matter how often they might plead with you or praise you. Some fans will needle you, or give you backhanded compliments like “I love those lips, too bad I can’t see those beautiful eyes” or “it would really help me enjoy your beautiful voice more if I could see that beautiful face.” - even when you’ve said what you will and won’t post. They may be trying to compliment you, but they’re trying to pressure you, too.
If you decide you’re okay showing your lips only, or just your cleavage, or just your eyes, or whatever works for you, then don’t be afraid to stick to that. Do it because you want to, and stop doing it when you want to stop.
It’s a wake up call for a lot of us, to realize that our fans are usually very vocal and publicly supportive, but our detractors and trolls are often silent and sneaky, going behind our backs to bring us down or gossip, etc. Make sure you don’t stumble into revealing more information to them than you want them to have.
A good rule of thumb for many people is this: on public platforms like Twitter, Instagram, or your public profile on Vanilla Audio, show only hints of your face or body. Show just your lips, or your hands, just your clothed cleavage, etc. Give your fans a taste of what you look like, but save your full face reveals for your paid platforms only. Not many haters will spend money to troll you, and so you’ll weed out a lot of time wasters and people who don’t have your best interests at heart, while still rewarding those who do.
Be safe out there, and have fun
xoxEve
#advice #discussion #audio_pro #takeover
Many audio performers enjoy the medium of voice precisely because it isn’t visual - there’s a lot less pressure to live up to the sky-high standards of visual porn (which is changing, but very slowly), and you can do your thing without sacrificing your privacy or risking your safety.
But at the same time, our fans and listeners often want to put a face to the voice - they get to know us through our vocal performances and start to get curious about who we are, at least in terms of general looks. In most cases it’s just gentle curiosity from real fans, especially if we’re the kind of performers who enjoy posting teasy photos and videos of our bodies, or parts of our faces, etc, and so the question comes up fairly often - should I do a face reveal?
You can put out polls and surveys from your fans if you want to get an idea of whether they want this or not - the trouble with this is that half of them who do want to see you will tell you not to, out of concern for you and your comfort levels. Ultimately the decision is yours, but here are some points to consider.
1. Do you have a job or other situation that could be jeopardized by exposure of your erotic persona? People being doxxed or outed is extremely rare, but if your livelihood or marriage might be on the line, think carefully before you do a full face reveal.
2. Do you have other platforms where you have posted pictures of your face as part of your real life? For instance, if you have a personal Facebook page where you share photos with your family and friends, be extra cautious about posting your face photos as part of your erotic persona. With tools like Google image search, someone could take your face reveal photo and do a search on it for all the other places on the internet where pictures of you appear. From there, obviously, they could connect you to your real life.
3. Are you okay with this image of you being out there *forever*? It is virtually impossible to un-ring this bell, once you put an image of yourself out there, it’s out there. Your face will forever be connected with your erotic persona, so think about this carefully if you think you might want to leave this part of your life behind at some point and run for office or something.
4. Do you have kids who might be embarrassed by their friends finding your picture online? Sometimes we ourselves are okay with showing the world who we are, but we forget how savage and tech savvy kids are these days, and how brutal they can be. Not to mention, of course, that they might tell their parents, who might make trouble for you. One recent example - a woman with an Only Fans account found out her kids were expelled from their Catholic school - (www.yahoo.com/entertainment/mom-makes-150k-month-onlyfans-181309223.html) because someone found out about her job. Her Only Fans is pretty tame, too.
5. Are you prepared for the sad reality that some of your ‘fans’ will take this opportunity to insult you? It goes with the territory, unfortunately - there’s a certain kind of person who enjoys sex, of course, but resents the people who turn them on, especially if you’re someone who makes money doing it. The vast majority of your fans will be complimentary and loving, but if you’re sensitive about your looks or your age, be prepared for the possibility that some people will take this chance to troll you. Haters gonna hate, right?
6. Do you want to? It sounds like a silly question, but you’d be surprised how many people just get swept up in what your fans want them to do, without stopping to consider whether this what they really want. Take all the time you need to figure out if you really want to reveal your face or body, and if so, think about whatever limits you have. You don’t owe anyone anything, no matter how often they might plead with you or praise you. Some fans will needle you, or give you backhanded compliments like “I love those lips, too bad I can’t see those beautiful eyes” or “it would really help me enjoy your beautiful voice more if I could see that beautiful face.” - even when you’ve said what you will and won’t post. They may be trying to compliment you, but they’re trying to pressure you, too.
If you decide you’re okay showing your lips only, or just your cleavage, or just your eyes, or whatever works for you, then don’t be afraid to stick to that. Do it because you want to, and stop doing it when you want to stop.
It’s a wake up call for a lot of us, to realize that our fans are usually very vocal and publicly supportive, but our detractors and trolls are often silent and sneaky, going behind our backs to bring us down or gossip, etc. Make sure you don’t stumble into revealing more information to them than you want them to have.
A good rule of thumb for many people is this: on public platforms like Twitter, Instagram, or your public profile on Vanilla Audio, show only hints of your face or body. Show just your lips, or your hands, just your clothed cleavage, etc. Give your fans a taste of what you look like, but save your full face reveals for your paid platforms only. Not many haters will spend money to troll you, and so you’ll weed out a lot of time wasters and people who don’t have your best interests at heart, while still rewarding those who do.
Be safe out there, and have fun
xoxEve
#advice #discussion #audio_pro #takeover